Catch my interview on radio!

Last week I had so much fun as a guest on Radical Advice on, a community radio station in San Francisco. Host Lily Sloane and I talked about therapy, family boundaries, Weight Watchers and anti-dieting, and trauma. There were lots of giggles and a few tears....

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Restriction Sucks: How to Embrace Full Permission

Women are inundated with the expectation to control most aspects of their lives, from their weight to their feelings to their relationships. We all know control is iffy, if not impossible, but what’s the alternative? If you think it’s to let everything go to hell, no...

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Why I Tell You to Breathe

I’ll admit- it’s probably annoying sometimes. If you’re in therapy with me, you probably hear me directing you to breathe at least once per session. Sometimes, I’ll tell you that several times! If you’re wondering why, here’s a rundown. Breath...

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You’re Not F*cking Special: How to Stop Self-Sabotage

You probably clicked on the title of this article thinking, “but wait, Abby, I know I’m not special!” And deep down, you know there’s a part of you that thinks you might be, or hopes you might be. Maybe growing up, you were told you were good at drawing or soccer....

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Love Maps: What To Do If Yours Sucks

What is a love map? The term love map was first coined in 1980 by sexologist John Money and defined as "a developmental representation or template in the mind and in the brain depicting the idealized lover and the idealized program of sexual and erotic activity...

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Ambivalence is Totally Okay In Therapy

I generally advocate for a “fuck yes” approach to decisions in life, both big and small. That means that when you invest time, money, or some other precious resource in something, it’s best to be close to 100% on board with that choice.  Going back to grad school? I...

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